friendster's blog post : words from others?.how would you react & response ?(15th nov 2008)

Particularly West acknowledged the term awfulizing (i’ve found it in my reading ) which means an idea that any relaxation in standards or vigilance is the first step toward failure,degradation and the collapse of civilization.I was attracted to the term~awfulizing but somehow not sure what i’ll be writing on.But perhaps, i’ll try to reflect the term in Islamic view.

Since you were born , a set of manifestation of guideline how ur future life should be would mainly set up or bold by ur parents. After sometime, if your behaviours and actions reflecting the guidelines, your parents would say ‘Thank God,we have followed the right way’.But if the result of your behaviours and actions seems to be far from what they have expected, your parents would be in situation so called dissapointment.Hey,don’t dissapoint your parents too often.=)

What does matter is how we act when we’ve been told by our parents what to do. Vary in ages ,response from us also differ.I’ve noticed that my writing seems to be too formal like this post meant for Parenting CCAC subjects,so let me make it general.People,when refuse after were told what to do by others will resulted in two responses ,
1st-overt -straightly im not going to do it or 2nd-passive+aggressive- i forgot.
these two responses surely lead to common frustration for those who gave the order/instruction.But why too often we refuse too hear others advice,opinion,thoughts,orders & instruction by directly not too follow them without at first place comparing our own with them.Stubborn?Ego?Status?Riya’?.whatever the answers is,we still are not easily to perceived and instructed to other words.Some might felt he himself already posses enough ability to make his own decision/opinion without expecting words form others, or even if he still want to listen others words , he always failed to received a helpful thoughts to be worked on.Or,even other words are obviously better than yours, there’s a sceptical minded that won’t let you accept the words as a total.and there are other explanation for this circumstances depending what variables you used on but mostly it would be your behaviour itself.

So come the conclusion, what merely is inside your mind when people start talking ?, what reactions or responses you would give? reactions may vary between different people as when you with your lecturer, you might taking each word came from his/her mouth seriously(especially bila nak xm) , but with your friends you might considering listening or not to because merely they will talk bout the same thing over and over again and it goes with different people.another question, do you give the right reactions or responses to the words?.perhaps you did but MOSTLY you aren’t.

It was narrated on the authority of Abu Najih al-Irbad bin Sariyah, radiyallahu ‘anhu, who said:

The Messenger of Allah, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, delivered an admonition that made our hearts fearful and our eyes tearful. We said, “O Messenger of Allah, it is as if this were a farewell sermon, so advise us.” He said, “I enjoin you to have Taqwa of Allah and that you listen and obey, even if a slave is made a ruler over you. He among you who lives long enough will see many differences. So for you is to observe my Sunnah and the Sunnah of the rightly-principled and rightly-guided successors, holding on to them with your molar teeth. Beware of newly-introduced matters, for every innovation (bid’ah) is an error.”
[Abu Dawud & Al-Tirmidhi, who says it is an authentic hadith]

Based on above hadith, what it has to do with this post?look at the bold word.’listen’ an ‘obey’ even if a slave is made ruler above you.My thought is,regardless who are you listening too,take every words seriously eventhough it may or may not beneficial,you can ignore those unbeneficial words after u analyse it.Don’t take words too easily,as Qur’an & Hadith effectively disseminate by words ,but don’t take it too exremely if the words seems to be words that can make you astray from Allah s.w.t.He Knows Best.amiin.

p/s:i noticed my post seems to be inconsistent with the post title,i’ll try to make sure i’ll write more clearly in the next post.saya semakin mengarut hari demi hari.=(